Sexual intercourse has been done not only for the reproduction of the human being. Although giving life to a human being is only possible thanks to intercourse, it also allows the couple to enjoy a rewarding and pleasurable intimate moment for both.
In addition, love is also expressed through sexual intercourse. Therefore, between a couple who love each other, they tend to be tender and delicate, full of kisses and caresses, as well as penetration.
Sex is usually voluntary. They are carried out because both parties agree to do so. Not by physical, emotional or psychological coercion. In such circumstances, the qualification of rape is attributed to it, since it is an involuntary act.
Rape usually refers to forced vaginal, oral, or anal penetration with a body part or even an object. On the other hand, it must be clear that, although rape is usually related to women as victims, anyone can be a victim of rape, regardless of their sex, race, age, gender or sexual orientation.
Those who have gone through this traumatic experience often come to think that it was their fault and therefore face an avalanche of negative feelings. If you have been a victim of rape, what can you do to overcome this experience and move on with your life? How can you build a healthy relationship again? What to do to leave it in the past?
If you are interested in knowing the answers to these questions, you cannot stop reading this post. In it, I’ll give you practical advice to help you get over this bump in your road and take back control of your life. As difficult as it may seem, you can be happy despite having been raped. Here I will be telling you how you can achieve it. Let’s see it.
Instructions for overcoming a violation
A rape can occur by a stranger, but in most cases the perpetrator is someone close to the victim. He can be a family friend or even a close relative, such as father, mother, brother, uncle, grandfather, etc.
In such circumstances, it may occur more than once and even for a long time. However, in the same way, it is considered a violation, since there is no consent of both parties. It can also be vaginal, oral, or anal.
Those who have suffered a violation, in addition to dealing with it, must face the consequences that it usually leaves in different areas of life. In fact, it is normal for the victim to suffer from post-traumatic stress. However, in the long term it can manifest other types of symptoms or psychological disorders. Some of them are:
- Fear of physical contact.
- Fear of authority.
- Fear of intimacy.
- Shame.
- Feelings of guilt.
- Low self-esteem.
- Anxiety and depression.
- Difficulty concentrating.
- Distrust.
- Inability to establish a stable romantic relationship.
- Addictions.
- insomnia etc.
What do you need to overcome a violation?
In order to overcome this traumatic experience, you need to go to a professional in the field. A psychologist will help you:
- Work on the grieving process of what happened. It is normal for you to go through different stages. He is there to give you support and guidance in everything, but especially in the management of guilt and anger.
- Plate a narrative that is free of myths related to the topic.
- Decrease the feeling of constant alertness in situations where there is interaction or intimacy with another.
- Reconnect with the desire and enjoyment of your own sexuality.
- Reestablish respect and care for your own body.
- It wasn’t your fault. It had nothing to do with the way you dress, how you walk, how you talk, how you smile, etc. You gave no indication that you wanted that to happen. The fault lies solely and exclusively with your attacker. He is responsible.
- You must seek help. Surround yourself with people, whether they are friends, family or professionals. These people can accompany you during the process and make it easier and more bearable.
- You have the ability to get ahead. This quality is also known as resilience and each person has been endowed with it. Although it is true that you cannot change what happened, you can connect with well-being and leave what happened behind.
- You can express yourself. Scream, cry, hit, run, write, do anything that helps you drain the frustration and pain that overwhelms you. Do not repress those feelings, since at any moment they can be detonated, hurting you and hurting someone else.
Tips for overcoming rape
In most of the world, rape is considered a crime and is therefore penalized. In view of this, why not go to the competent authorities and make a formal complaint about what happened?
Yes, it is true that doing this could lead to prolonged distress and having to undergo uncomfortable, painful and embarrassing medical tests. However, it may be the definitive solution that you are looking for so much.
That the guilty pay for what they did, that justice be done, that they be punished can help you heal your emotional and psychological wounds, just as time made sure to heal the physical ones.
Therefore, do not be afraid and confront your aggressor by talking about what happened, regardless of whether he is a close relative, if he is a family friend, if you are a minor or if you are a man. No one deserves to go through an experience as cruel as rape.
Remember that only you are the owner of your own body and, therefore, you decide what to do with it, how and when. No one else can do it for you.
If you put these suggestions into practice, the pain won’t go away automatically, but it will help you take the necessary steps to put it behind you and start anew. Your life does not end after a rape. It is in your hands to make a difference and go from being a victim to being a survivor.
