Tantric sex is a sexual practice that more than postures and sex with penetration, has more to do with something more intimate. By trying to feel the other person, reaching an ecstasy together, enjoying the process, prolonging the orgasm and ejaculation as long as possible. It goes on as long as possible to enjoy the moment as much as possible.
When this type of sexual practice is practiced in tantric sex, sexual postures and intimate contact are taken as the whole. That is, between the couple, there must be extreme trust or at least, if not trust, if they will have to have little shame or complexes.
As in any sexual practice, you will be without clothes, that is something obvious. So this one will be no different. And more, considering that in tantric sex you try to experiment, get the greatest possible pleasure through contact and visualization with the other person.
Instructions for tantric sex
- What makes tantric sex different from any other practice is that in this case, what is done is not simply taking into account penetration and ejaculation, but it is intended to enjoy without penetrating, without ejaculating and it is done through the contact of skin to skin, with the sight, the coordination between the two people who do it, the breathing, the massages, the smell, etc.
- Surely by now, many of you are thinking about how it has to be done and if anyone can do it. Well, this is like everything. To practice it, you will have to start at some point… therefore, we are not going to lie. It’s not easy. For the simple reason that it is more mental and the mind plays a very important role. If you are not used to meditation or relaxation, for example, it will cost you a lot. But for this, practice or start meditating or do some yoga or relaxation classes.
- Another possibility, as a couple, at times put it into practice when you want to be intimate and practice tantric sex. Put yourself in a situation with the environment, which also plays a very important role. Plan a place where you will not be disturbed. Mobile phones, television and other electronic devices, outside and/or turned off. Place candles, dim lighting, some relaxing music in the background, incense…
- Another fact that may be curious if you have not practiced it before or have no notion, is knowing how to practice it properly. To be able to disconnect from the madding crowd(really), try to have a connection with the other person, be able to connect with oneself and with the other and enjoy (which, after all, is what it is all about).
- That said, with tantric sex if we take into account that we will base ourselves on some people who start and have no notions and if they do, even more reason not to do it, the normal and logical thing in these cases, is not to practice it in the bed. the why? Simply because you have to sit or have certain postures that in a bed, since it is not stable, it is neither comfortable nor beneficial for the back. Therefore, place yourselves on the ground. Think about placing planets, cushions, sheets, towels whatever you find most comfortable and hygienic.
- When you have everything ready, in terms of the environment, think about the light (if you prefer very bright or dim) with candles or without them, with music or in complete silence, with aromas of candles and incense or without anything… Once everything ready, make sure you have as much time as possible. Because if something doesn’t go well with tantric sex, it’s the rush. If you have little free time, forget about it and leave it for another time.
- Now yes, it’s your turn to start giving free rein to your desires. There are no taboos or rules. It is about going at your own pace, letting yourself go and above all, feeling yourself. Obviously, it is intended to enjoy as much as possible. Feel each other. It is not so much the idea of reaching climax with orgasm and ejaculation, but rather enjoying the whole process as much as possible. Kiss each other, kiss each other all over the body, it doesn’t matter if you go quickly or very slowly, each couple has their own rhythm and you don’t always want to do it in the same way or rhythm.
- Go from kisses to caresses. To do this, caress each other with clothes, explore each other (which will also have another vibe and give it a spicy touch while you explore the body of your partner through all the corners of its anatomy), undress (if it is your partner and vice versa the one who does it, better) is about observing you, feeling you, exploring…
- Completely naked, you can start with the massages that can become eternal and really exciting. Infinite possibilities come into play here! Because you can practice it only with your hands, without further ado. Or start introducing accessories and erotic toys to complement it. Possible ideas? Massage oils, edible oils (vanilla oils and the famous cinnamon oil give it a plus of eroticism and are aphrodisiacs), pens, temperature oils (they can be hot or cold), waxes that are heated and are specific for massages, lubricants, etc.
- When you are giving massages to your partner, do not forget something that you should not miss at any time: eye contact. Stare at him, mischievously, excited, with desire… while you massage, think of every corner, as if you were in no hurry. Exciting the couple but stopping at just moments so that they enjoy but do not end with an orgasm. Know when to stop and give it more.
- As it is something that, as we said at the beginning, is very heady, very mental, of sensations… don’t forget about it. Hence, eye contact, looking into the eyes, looking at the body, concentrating on what you do, on what you feel, on the breath, on the breath and the pleasure of your partner, etc.
- As not everyone manages to practice it properly, even if anyone says otherwise, it is a process that takes time to make it perfect and how it should be and not how perhaps, most practice it. Therefore, do not despair if it seems that you do not achieve that rapport (it is not that simple either) and more, if you have never meditated or are very nervous. Of course, it is also difficult to hold on, knowing how to stop, give, receive… continue, but always with the mind set on meditation, concentration and being honest, that “peace” or control is not always achieved.
- Let us remember that after all, tantric sex and tantric massages (so famous) after all, give pleasure but not precisely, with penetration. Although if you can reach orgasm, you try to prolong it as long as possible and you want to enjoy body-to-body contact, touch, smell, sight…
- When a tantric massage is performed on women, it is not called in the same way as when it is done on men. In these cases, the massage given to the woman is called “yoni” and the massage given to the man is called “lingam “.
- Nor, if we investigate a little more, do they have much to do with it… for example, if we go into more detail, we can discover that lingam massages focus more on the male erogenous zones. On the contrary, yoni massages (the feminine one) focus both on the zones that are erogenous and on other parts of your body. It has an explanation, eye. And there are many more parts of the female body and not just her erogenous zones, to feel a lot of pleasure.
What do you need for tantric sex?
- Be in a quiet environment, without external noise.
- Erotic toys and/or various accessories: whips, gags, masks, ropes, straps, chains, etc.
- For massages, massage candles, lubricants, body oils, exotic oils, aphrodisiac oils, etc. can be used.
Tips for tantric sex
In short, tantric sex is not so simple a priori to put it into practice and take it to the top without prior contact with the “yogi” world. It is not, so to speak, a sexual practice without more. to use. It is more special. It is contacting oneself, with one’s partner, connecting within oneself, with one’s conscience, one’s mind, one’s body…
For those who practice it, it is a way of life, choose a mantra, a philosophy of life in short.
You have to have a certain condition to endure as long as expected in these techniques. In most cases you can spend hours and hours… therefore, it is better to anticipate the time available and not get involved if you do not have enough time.
No less important (like the preparation of the environment and all the paraphernalia) is also the breathing of each one. Without forgetting contact in all its variants, both visual (eye-eye) and touch. Touching, caressing, feeling… all of this, in combination and with pause and time, makes it different and feels twice as much. Use what you think will make you feel more and put you to the test: oils, lubricants, candles, etc. In the environment, remember that it is always better to connect with each other and concentrate, a very quiet environment, very well lit or something more sensual, romantic and sensual like dim light or candlelight. If you feel more comfortable, music with natural sounds that is very relaxing will help you.
